Why do we feel the need to be great?
What is it about the concepts of "making an impact" or "leaving a legacy" or "Pursue your Passion" or "living EPIC life" that is so appealing to us?
Well...some of us (mostly millennials). Others see these concepts and colloquialisms as corny cliches espoused by self-help junkies and motivational speakers.
We all want the "good life." We want to be happy, feel fulfillment in our relationships, careers, and families.
There is nothing wrong for us wanting this. It is right for us to desire these things. This is a good thing!
Yet, when problems arise, and life doesn't go the way I want it to, I feel like there is something wrong with me. Like I'm not doing enough. If I could just DO more, put in more hours, workout harder and longer...then I'd have what I want, be where I want, and be able to do what I want.
Yet, I think when we focus on what we don't have, we continue to perpetuate the sense of lack. If we are continually looking to find & fulfill our "Life Purpose" or "Live our Legend", what we're subconsciously telling ourselves is that we don't have it, and are not doing it. 'Finding your purpose' is a fallacy. Your purpose is what you make it to be. It's already inside of you. Nobody can tell you what your purpose is. It's yours. We get to choose what we focus our minds and attention on.
If I continue to think, "How can I live my legacy today?", I'm inherently sabotaging myself from actually feeling as if I am creating a legacy. Why? Because holding myself up to this standard of "creating legacy" or "impacting the world" feels overwhelming and unrealistic.
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However, I do think we can ask ourselves questions that can give us clues and clarity on what we should choose to be our purpose at a given time.
"I want to change the world!"
Great...Oh you caught the case of the millennial mindset too??
Good for you. But WHY do I want to change the world?
Could it be an inferiority complex?
"If I change the world, and have an impact, and leave a legacy like Malcolm X, Jesus, Jim Morrison, MLK, Mother Theresa etc., then I'll know that my life really does have meaning and is worth something."
Kanye has an inferiority complex. I love him, but he does. Ask J. Cole.
Change the world? You're a genius? You're this generation's Steve Jobs, Walt Disney and Picasso?
Why does one need to continually tell people these things? If you believe it, why do others need to believe it?
I know because I struggle with it too.
The sad truth is, I struggle to believe that I'm worthy to create an MLK-like impact. Why? Because I'm not MLK. His story is not my story. I'm no more worthy than the next person. I'm a regular person that wants to feel like my life is worth something.
But worth something to whom?
Who am I really living for?
At the end of the day, who do I really want say, "Damn, he made the most out of his life."?
I know it's cliché, but the saying is true: What really matters MOST is what I think of myself. When I'm lying on my metaphorical deathbed, and my days have come to an end...what's most important to me is that I can look back at my life and say:
"I did not waste it."
For so long, this admonition has gripped me: "Don't waste your life."
It has guided me through my teens and twenties. It influences every aspect of my life: social, intellectual, spiritual and professional. It keeps me sane through struggles and heartbreaks. It gives me courage to do the hard things. Sacrifice. Take risks. Put off present gratification for future rewards. It's shed light on who I am and what I do.
That's my purpose.